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Posted on Jul 07, 2017 at 08:38 PM

I love the author's perspective! Otherwise, simply put, men cheat because they can. I can also see it as a "means of survival." I totally get their point. Men are always given passes for being "human" and having reasons to enjoy variety, as if women are any different. We enjoy variety too. We just are not permitted the same luxury. This is what we know: Almost all men cheat, so women, do what you have to do to protect yourself. Be proactive. If you decide to be with a man long-term, make sure he has means to provide you with a handsome offering, should he cheat. It stings less that way. Nobody has time to put this any other way. Learn to be #Savage. #GuardYourHeart



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Posted on Jul 05, 2017 at 05:18 AM

This is why I'm watching and waiting for a man with strong inner strength.. Secure with who he is.. Then we will be a vibrational match together.. happy and grounded.. enjoying life and all it has to offer..;-)

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Posted on Jul 04, 2017 at 03:31 PM

one word, one basic instinct: survival. it is a fundamental rule governing the living universe. if men wouldn't be cheaters us humans would not exist. I am afraid it is that simple.


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Posted on Jul 04, 2017 at 01:15 PM

men get the slightest Attention from any Female and they think they are gods gift to women

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Posted on Jul 04, 2017 at 05:07 AM

sounds like you cheat!

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Posted on Sep 24, 2015 at 05:01 PM

Good evening all!

 

Sorry I came to this discussion late but had to respond.  

 

First of all, let's understand that a cheater can be male or female.  However, since the topic is about men, I will draw upon a famous line from a scene in "Moonstruck".

 

When John Mahoney's character tries to persuade a stern Olympia Dukukis to allow him into her abode,  she sternly remarks "You're a little boy and you wanna be bad!".  The response...just like the mastercard ad....PRICELESS!!

 

Adults make decisions understanding the consquences of their actions.  Children throw caution to the wind... (even if it's down wind to a stockyard) 

 

Remain blessed.


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Posted on Sep 19, 2015 at 01:53 PM

it really isn't and I'm guessing based on that response most men have cheated on you. Makes sense


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Posted on Sep 01, 2014 at 01:55 AM

Men cheat for the same reasons women cheat.  There's no difference between the sexes.  I'd say the largest reason for cheating is that the mastery of sex is largely a mystery and both sexes are unsatisfied in the bedroom.  The most ridiculous situation is to back yourself into an emotional relationship when the sex is flat and untinteresting.   Most men I've found haven't a clue how to connect in sex and most women I'm afraid aren't telling their men what they want.  Each bump in the dark and niehter are being honnest about their motives.

 

Cheating that hurts the most in my oppinion is the cheating that's done for the thrill of being decietful.  These individuals are actually aroused at the risk of humiliating their partner.   

 

Some individuals are gifted in act of sex and need a constant menue of new partners.  These individuals just should not be in a closed relationship and find other's who share that same open thinking.  It's unfortunate that sexual integrity isn't discussed, I in fact, have entire chapter about it.   I support those who have the guts to openly broker their sexuality, pair appropriately and request for open relationships when you know your not capable of maintaining a closed one.

 

Honestly men, most women should be having affairs if you wrap it up under 6 minutes and roll over and go to sleep...lol...I'm just saying. 



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Posted on Aug 31, 2014 at 04:59 PM

If a man is feeling valued, appreciated,  supported, encouraged, and acknowledged he is truly a lucky man who found a woman who is unique and very loving. He would then be a fool to risk all that is so special in a relationship.

 

Men may cheat not because they are missing one of the above but just because they want something different and new. It may not have anything to do with love at all. Just temporary chemistry, challenge and a different physical pleasure. Even though its very selfcentered he may not think about that at the moment but may feel very guilty later. The dangerous thing he may be tempted repeatedly. Especially if his marriage is not doing well.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Aug 21, 2010 at 10:30 PM

Hi there,we only ask what your thinking to confirm what we KNOW is going on,women's intuition is a very annoying DON for men,Sorry men are very simple beings because they are so predictable.Very few of them have any respect for any thing that is not themselves.They can't be true even to their own shadows.

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Posted on Jul 22, 2010 at 12:23 AM

When I was 18 my father took me to Thailand....a bit awkward as I boarded a bus full of men in their 30

s and 40's from around the world who where on their way to Patya Beach for sex. My father was 38 and their for the same reasons...everyone thought we were lovers..but he was my father who walked with me and talked to me as we passed man after man after man...and he told me why these men were there and he made me sit with his lovers in the morning...and he told me how important it was to learn how to master the art of pleasure....

As harsh as this story may sound, it is mine and never have I had a man cheat on me becuase I learned early that as a woman we are the Seductress and it is an honorable noble position.

Wathc a Lioness who hunts for her male.

Shiva holds the space while Shakti dances.

Loose your egos and rise in Mastery as a Goddess and this topci will no longer exist!!


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Posted on Jul 01, 2010 at 11:48 PM

Hello everyone.... I am back on the site after a 1 1/2 year hiatus. I am amazed that you all have kept this blog alive and running since I left. I see we've had over 7,000 views. Wow.

 

Why Men Cheat is a topic which has drawn much controversy and chatter... the topic seems to really hit a nerve. Perhaps because it causes so much pain.

 

It hurts to be cheated on. To be betrayed. But there is another side to the topic.... the WHY.

 

Let's continue to explore the topic in detail and discover the answers together.

 

Marc Holland

 

 


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Posted on Mar 16, 2010 at 04:09 PM

Quoting wwww12345

Maslow does indeed have part of the answer, but not all. If you look at nature, you will find that almost all species cheat, males and females. Cheating provided genetic diversity, which is good for the species. Thus, to not cheat is actually going against what is natural and built in as a survival of the species instinct.


Hello W.

i agree with you..men and women cheat..it is human nature...some times they need to feel full filled and need attention or simply they need fun time...so they cheat...men mostly cheat because of insecurity and lack of self esteem...


Julie


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Posted on Feb 20, 2010 at 05:53 AM

'EGO' is a problem of both men and women. Unconditional love is rare...man has evolved from other beings of the past and instincts cannot be suppressed. Some men that cheat are good men others evil men...but who is to blame?

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Posted on Feb 19, 2010 at 11:00 PM

Men cheat because they are simple creatures. It's easy no emotional attatchments/resentments. Like I said men are simple beings. Although I was a cheater because i wanted to escape. Not proud of it and trust me if I ahd to do it all over again, I'd choose not to.

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Posted on Jul 10, 2009 at 05:06 AM

So far every response has ignored the topic that you wanted up for discussion: whether men cheat to fulfill frail egos. Yes, I am a great listener (& apparently a great reader!). I don't believe the male ego is frail. In fact, most men I meet or have met have huge egos that they seem to fulfill regularly to keep it strong. Sure, the ego can be cut to the quick making it fragile, but I don't think that's why men cheat. In my opinion, men who cheat are not men at all, they are little boys who have not grown up. They are people who did not evolve with very high morals, values, principles, respect for themselves or others, period. In some cases, maybe they were raised to believe cheating is acceptable, as is the case in many foreign countries. I am a Loyal Leo who is all heart. I believe most cheaters (male or female) have no heart. I am wrtiing a book too (1 of several). Maybe you'd like to visit me in South Beach & we can commiserate. If so, please e-mail me. All the Best ;)

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Posted on May 16, 2009 at 03:17 PM

Men cheat 'cause they want to and they can... simple as that.

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Posted on Dec 05, 2007 at 01:59 PM

Re: VivaChau write: According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs in "A Theory of Human Motivation, physiological needs, such as, food, water, sex, etc.. are at the bottom of the ladder, love is at the third level, and the top is self actualization, a state in which one could accept and denounce of material things to be free or to be closer to God. If men/women love someone and could not be loyal to the person, then perhaps, the issue here is not whether they are at fault or not but where we are in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. We really cannot expect someone who is still trying to satisfy their physiological needs to love us when one has to be secure first with safety and physiological needs first. We should not wallow in self pity or feeling hurt because someone is not ready or share the same sentiment with us about love in its higher order. If someone is lusting for us and uses the word love to express his or her feelings, then at best it is only lust, a transient moment. Should we wait for them to change in the name of love? Well, we could, but who among us could change overnight? Is it possible to expect someone to reach the love level when he or she is still trying to satisfy their physiological needs?

Maslow does indeed have part of the answer, but not all. If you look at nature, you will find that almost all species cheat, males and females. Cheating provided genetic diversity, which is good for the species. Thus, to not cheat is actually going against what is natural and built in as a survival of the species instinct.

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Posted on Dec 04, 2007 at 04:20 PM

Hello All, I don't if some of you might remember a song called "The Clean Up Woman." But, the premise is that a women may push a man out then another woman comes along and snatches him up. I've just kinda figured this out. I dated a guy and another woman got in his ear and they started "cheating" emotionally. I felt him pulling away and broke up with him, next thing I know she is engaged to him! So, I think women have to pay attention to a man's emotional as well as other needs and make sure she is the one meeting them. Otherwise, the clean up woman will get him.

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Posted on Dec 01, 2007 at 06:17 AM

Monk I would love to read your. But let me say this why do men cheat? there is no one reason, Some of the finest men do. Why because in their life something is mission friendship, passion, just being able to let go and be who they truly are. So many of our mates will do any thing to get us but once the chase is over, look out it is time for them to feel they have to mold us into there perfection's not only that some of our spouse's are lead to believe this is what's best for them so much that they totally lose who they are!! Cheating is bad word. I know so many women who husbands that will do anything for them and yes there love is strong but at the same time I seen men walk off with their head tucked because this woman dose not have the passion for life ,sex become distant and they just go threw the motions, instead they should take this man and have fun what happen to that? run around the house naked or something, yes men cheat and so do women when he we feel no one xcan see us anymore that life is just routine and small augments with no compassion yes they cheat. Now there are real dogs out there and I wont get into that ,but don't be so hard on the good man that dose he may just love his other partner too but just trapped into losing what he has worked dearly for all his life that has to be the hard part knowing someone is better suited for you and know you can never have this person and eventually they walk away because you have made a choice to stay with the wife/husband when there is another out there! so yes we cheat but I call breaking free I understand completely not that it is right but I understand . Happiness comes with a very high price tag some times

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