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Posted on Dec 01, 2007 at 06:17 AM

Monk I would love to read your. But let me say this why do men cheat? there is no one reason, Some of the finest men do. Why because in their life something is mission friendship, passion, just being able to let go and be who they truly are. So many of our mates will do any thing to get us but once the chase is over, look out it is time for them to feel they have to mold us into there perfection's not only that some of our spouse's are lead to believe this is what's best for them so much that they totally lose who they are!! Cheating is bad word. I know so many women who husbands that will do anything for them and yes there love is strong but at the same time I seen men walk off with their head tucked because this woman dose not have the passion for life ,sex become distant and they just go threw the motions, instead they should take this man and have fun what happen to that? run around the house naked or something, yes men cheat and so do women when he we feel no one xcan see us anymore that life is just routine and small augments with no compassion yes they cheat. Now there are real dogs out there and I wont get into that ,but don't be so hard on the good man that dose he may just love his other partner too but just trapped into losing what he has worked dearly for all his life that has to be the hard part knowing someone is better suited for you and know you can never have this person and eventually they walk away because you have made a choice to stay with the wife/husband when there is another out there! so yes we cheat but I call breaking free I understand completely not that it is right but I understand . Happiness comes with a very high price tag some times

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Posted on Nov 30, 2007 at 08:13 AM

According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs in "A Theory of Human Motivation, physiological needs, such as, food, water, sex, etc.. are at the bottom of the ladder, love is at the third level, and the top is self actualization, a state in which one could accept and denounce of material things to be free or to be closer to God. If men/women love someone and could not be loyal to the person, then perhaps, the issue here is not whether they are at fault or not but where we are in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. We really cannot expect someone who is still trying to satisfy their physiological needs to love us when one has to be secure first with safety and physiological needs first. We should not wallow in self pity or feeling hurt because someone is not ready or share the same sentiment with us about love in its higher order. If someone is lusting for us and uses the word love to express his or her feelings, then at best it is only lust, a transient moment. Should we wait for them to change in the name of love? Well, we could, but who among us could change overnight? Is it possible to expect someone to reach the love level when he or she is still trying to satisfy their physiological needs?

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Posted on Nov 29, 2007 at 08:09 AM

Certainly, girl, one does not have to maintain a relationship with ongoing issue like this. Just don't become murderous about it and turn into a d..k chopper. Sex is like food. Why one keeps tasting new things. If you are dealing with the one with a big appetite just look at him/her and make up your mind. This is bigger then our ability to reason. Now, love is too, not something you create and handle using your head. It comes and goes, and one has to have a big enough heart to hold it. If not, it will evaporate pretty quick. It has to enter your blood and run in your veins. And.... trust. It is part of love. The more you trust the more you are going to be hurt. Eventually you will learn, not to be distrustful,though, I hope, but make a right choice. You will have an insight. The ones who never trust are fools. They can never love. They come empty handed, live empty handed and disappear into nothingness empty handed, just a bunch of baggers asking another baggers to deliver happiness. What a waste of a human life. One is happy when one knows from the experience, not assumes digging into all kinds of theories and philosophy . Love, trust and you will see clear to make a right choice one day.

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Posted on Nov 28, 2007 at 10:14 PM

Hey monk... Haven't you finished that book yet, you're as bad as me and my screenplay... Well... I just popped in for a minute to visit some old friends... But.. if you feel a strong mental connection, along with the physical... That is good ground for a True Love relationship to BLOOM... ; D awh... but hard to find ! ~

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Posted on Nov 28, 2007 at 01:42 PM

its too bad i didnt save my reply. Otherwise i would continuously post it. Whats wrong with the truth millionaire match? THere was none of the four issues you kindly have up there of"what not to post". I didnt violate any of those terms. I will from now on save my replies on bloggers to see if you eliminate honesty. And the men who do cheat have lack of morals, values and respect, cause if they possessed respect, Cheating wouldnt occur, it would only be a thought or a little bit of imagination, and ladies if a man cant imagine you being universal to him pleasing to him mentally and physically then sorry...you will eventually lose it.

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Posted on Nov 28, 2007 at 01:46 AM

so very true

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Posted on Nov 28, 2007 at 01:39 AM

Not only men cheat just as many women cheat these days. People cheat because they want to it feels good the old have your cake and eat it to. Men are stuck in long term marriages that no longer have sex or romance some of you will have lived this.Not saying it's a good thing just that I understand it

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Posted on Nov 27, 2007 at 02:14 PM

Cheaters are selfish,self centered people; men and women. The reason they cheat will vary by case. However, not for one minute do I believe it has anything to do with whether you allow hand cuffs in the bedroom or listen to Bach while your climaxing. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with what you think their partner is lacking. Cheating has nothing to do with their partner. If you are unhappy; leave. If you are not sexually satisfied; work on being open with your partner or leave. If you like the thrill of the chase; chase your tail out the door. There is no justification for cheating.

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Posted on Nov 27, 2007 at 11:07 AM

How do you rate this. Imagine your fiance cheating on you when your at home shaving your head so you dont have to watch it all fall out from having breast Cancer chmeo treatments, you want to talk about a bad boy Ill give you all you need for a cheat book but hes got to come close to topping it all.

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Posted on Nov 27, 2007 at 09:14 AM

Re: sexyitalian2007 write: Men cheat because they are pigs...plain and simple.....LOL

And exactly who are these pigs rolling around in the mud with? That's right... It takes a real sow to make a boar roar !!! ****************** I wonder how the original poster is doing with his "book" ???

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Posted on Nov 18, 2007 at 10:47 PM

this reply to the "40+ interviewee" is months late but the question haunts me. First, why mention her age? And did you ever ask her why she slept with this woman? You condidered it cheating but you yourself were a cheater at the time. Did this not give you the excuse you needed to confess your own cheating with out guilt and continue on your quest. Did it ever occur to you that you may have set her up. Sometimes we need to step out of our skin and put ourselves in another to understand and feel what it is like to be that person. I think she was lost in love.

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Posted on Nov 12, 2007 at 06:07 PM

Well,I do NOT feel that way at all.If you are a man who cheates and think you have something to prove,wrong assunption.A "real man" does not have to cheat.He has done his homework before.He is intelluctual enough to know the right questions to ask her before. We ALL have "NEEDS",if a man or womens needs are NOT meant, then they go to find what they are looking for else where ! Simple What can I do to fuill your needs? What is it you need from me ? Men need 1)sexual fulfillment 2) recreational companionship 3) An attractive spouse 4) Domestic support 5)Admiration. Women need; 1)Affection 2)Conversation 3)Honesty & openness 4) Financial support 5)family commitment. If these ingredients in are not there for either cheating does fall into place. His needs are not her needs !!!!

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Posted on Oct 23, 2007 at 12:13 PM

Monk said recently he was leaving for Paris ~ for more research maybe ???

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Posted on Oct 10, 2007 at 03:44 AM

Men cheat because they are insecure and they need to feel special and wanted. Most important of all, they love the chase.

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Posted on Oct 09, 2007 at 10:28 PM

EASY: Men and women who don't know basic :THE NEUROCHEMISTRY OF SEX probably will cheat forever...poor people. Those who read it and will use this "magic secret" will be very happy and will never cheat in there lifetime. Anyway I can send this info to those who will ask me.

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Posted on Oct 09, 2007 at 07:36 AM

I think that both men and women cheat for the thrill and to explore what they are really looking for in a man or a women. This is only my opinion.

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Posted on Sep 20, 2007 at 07:21 AM

Men cheat because they can. It's based on a multitude of reasons and I dont believe all of them are due to lack of sex. It's all about the " catch" and to some men " the chase is better than the catch". How many famous attached men have cheated on their equally famous stunning wives? Too many. And how many times do we hear that their sex lives were thriving? Too many. Men are hunters, they like to mount, to conquer and to win. If men are raised without being taught self control, they will revert to instinct. There is a specific thrill of being able to cheat and get away with it. Cheating, gambling, subtance or any addiction is derrived from the same thing. The brain gets rushes of seratonin, causing temporary feelings of well being and satisfaction. ( note I say temporary ). Athletes, rock stars, extremists get rushes from adulation etc....it's the same thing. This is where the practise of self control comes into play. If someone is married or committed then they should be prepared to give up the lifestyle of mulit partners because inevitably no one wins in the long run. Dr. Kim over and out!

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Posted on Sep 19, 2007 at 11:21 PM

I think cheating applies to both men and women evenly but unfortunately men get more blame for it because women can talk about it but men more fragile they just hide. There are so many reasons for cheating, lack of erotic love, intimacy, trust, communication, sexual desire, rejection and of course not getting enough attention. I have certainly experienced some real evidence to prove that. Often woman get married to someone 15 to 20 years older for security only and not love, drive them to cheat later in the relationship due to lack of physical function and attraction. Also, getting married early in age often leads to cheating. After realizing that they are growing apart then start looking for someone else who will fulfill their needs. If men/women so unhappy with their marriage why they just not leave insisted of cheating??? I don't think there's any good reason for that...

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Posted on Sep 04, 2007 at 10:11 PM

Well... Drew, most women would just kick ya to the curb, or take ya down the road, and let ya go... bE A GOOD BOY,& mAYBE... They might keep ya ! ; D

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Posted on Sep 04, 2007 at 07:46 AM

Next step for me....? Castration by a rusty spoon?

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