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Posted on Jun 28, 2007 at 01:44 AM

Monk.. What I find interesting... Those married guys that need that bottomless hole filled... are... Blinded by Jealousy... if a hot, handsome guy just looks his wife's, or girlfriend's way... Talk about a double standard !! Which leads me to believe, those men just think of the women in their lives, as possessions, and are therefore worried about theft !!! Keep those valuables locked up, for safe keeping... huh ? : )

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Posted on Jun 27, 2007 at 04:36 PM

I can only give you my own story as to why my husband cheated. We even sat down and discussed it. He was a young, struggling physician who was starting to build his practice when we married. It was our common goal to devote ourselves to the business. Always making long-term plans. As the years passed, we had turned into a business partnership, money talk, bills, taxes, etc. constantly. Once that happened, it seemed as though the romance had just gone out of the relationship. We were a business, not a marriage. So, he found a younger woman and that was that. Funny thing about it all is that he still only trusts me with the business stuff. We chat about ideas and still the trust remains. I have forgiven him the cheating, although we are finished. But, in the end, we remain good friends. I always swore that business would never get in the way of the romance again. Sad when a 20 yr marriage falls apart like it did. But, that's life! I fully accept my part of the blame here. Again, that is just my story. Others may differ. I believe that love and fidelity depend on both partners. My ex is a good man. As a doctor, I trust him with my life. Maybe we are strange that way. Just one woman's opinion

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Posted on Jun 27, 2007 at 04:13 PM

Why men cheat.Number one Because they can and if they have a willing partner. It is sport to them and it is the as they will say the manly thing to do. Or they are insecure and need as many notches in their belt as possible.Next they cannot resist a pretty woman that probably want them for other reasons than to sleep with them They are too dumb to know how smart a woman can be. Men certainly so not cheat for they think they feel love. However women will I don't know if men know this but many older women know about the cheating but love the security and love the fact they do not have to even bother with older men on meds or an artifical devices to have sex IT IS A MAJOR TURN OFF TO US. SOOO they keep the security and let him do as he pleases and guess what the joke is on him. When a man cheats a woman never ever forgives. So if u are one of those men that supposes to clear his mind and tell the little woman Spare her!!Keep it to your self.Why is it men spend so much time trying to impress a total stranger of how good they are and never did that to their wives? Oh yes I have been married (2) times and cheating was'nt our problem.If I wanted to cheat I would leave first and u should too.A cheat is a cheat and will always cheat on the pretiest sexy woman.

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Posted on May 31, 2007 at 05:37 PM

Very much agree, you watched Upstairs Downstairs to RG but now in the modern word the woman is the preditor, she works, wants new experiences and is very quick in in reeling in her man for a quick fling, times is a changing, just as many lady repd on the road as men, all looking for 'fun'

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Posted on May 31, 2007 at 03:23 PM

During our interview process we are finding that many men admit they cheat because of a "hole which they are unable to fill". There seems to be a bottomless pit of need where men are lacking and longing for attention and love. Even though they are married, or in a serious relationship, they just can't seem to fill that hole. Many of the guys we spoke with admit that they do not think they will ever get over this need problem. What sayeth you readers?

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Posted on May 27, 2007 at 07:21 AM

Lack of honest communication is the basis of why most men and women cheat, in my opinion. There are many other issues that compound this, or peticular things they are unable or unwilling to be honest about, or to listen too. This is the one boundary I have in my life, I won't tolerate cheaters However, most of my friends are swingers and have some of the best relationships I have ever seen! Some people would view this as "cheating" I don't.

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Posted on May 26, 2007 at 10:30 PM

One of the best answers I have ever heard is simple...but...is so much more meaningful if the Questions proceeds it... "Why do men cheat"... ......."Opportunity".... Yet another thought along the same lines....perhaps for your book..or we could "co-author",which could be,to say the least,interesting to write and have appeal to both sexes when completed... "Love for a man 'begins' in the bedroom" "Love for a woman 'ends in the bedroom" Ah, the differences between men and women....Exactly how many pages is your book going to be? Ha..Ha..Ha...Good Luck on your writing adventure.

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Posted on May 26, 2007 at 09:51 AM

She could always buy a puppy? ; ) @-->-- XHeartNSoulO

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Posted on May 26, 2007 at 05:51 AM

I honestly don't know why men cheat.... I was married to one though. I do believe sex for a man isn't the same thing as sex for a woman. The level of commitment for a man to want to have sex with someone (in general), can be zero. In fact, I don't even think men need to like the woman they have sex with.... it can be all physical? and nothing more. Whereas...woman (in general) need to be attracted both physically and mentally. That takes a whole lot more effort?. (laughing) There is a book titled SECRET LIES (LIVES) by Dr Pittman... Has anyone read it?

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Posted on May 25, 2007 at 04:49 AM

Looking for the Mane Man , Angel LOL

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Posted on May 24, 2007 at 10:47 PM

Zorrow... I am a lioness... And I may hunt, but it's the lone lion, that I'm after... : )

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Posted on May 24, 2007 at 05:41 PM

Sorry Hoots. Wow , what a sorry world we live in . Do you truly belive that, if you do it means that EVERYONE is out cheating tonite or tomorrow nite. Boy im glad i mix with a different crowd

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Posted on May 24, 2007 at 05:32 PM

Geez RM thats a very shallow remark, some people on here , i hope have a certain amount of scruples and morals. I have always tried to treat others as i want to be treated, but you do get hurt doing that.

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Posted on May 24, 2007 at 04:57 PM

Angel, Sweetheart, its very much a two way thing, sexual attraction is the same for both sexes, the liberated woman is a better predator than man, i hate to admit, but think about the King of beasts, its the Lioness who goes hunting

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Posted on May 24, 2007 at 04:33 PM

Many women feel that it's the woman's fault.....the women these men cheat with are more beautiful than the wives and so on. I think of that character of the person... if a woman was beautiful on the outside, and knowingly cheats with a married man... she becomes ugly to me.... that is like violating trust... and without trust there can be no REAL intimacy. "Surface Love".... they will never know deep complete, trusting LOVE, or TRUE Love....and that is sad. ~T~

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Posted on May 24, 2007 at 04:30 PM

Men cheat because.... Many women have no morals, or virtues.. & they prey upon weak minded, irresponsible, unconscionable, men... or vice versa, Lowlifes are interchangeable Lifespan Limited...

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Posted on May 24, 2007 at 03:44 PM

From what i understand , most cheating men cheat with married women, who are of course cheating women. Which makes this subject null and void as its a Draw

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Posted on May 24, 2007 at 03:25 PM

Hello to all, I sat thru an interesting interview with a 40 year old divorced woman who said that she has grown so accustomed to men not being loyal that she has basically given up looking for a one-on-one relationship. As she put it, "It's hard enough finding the right man, let alone one who will be monogamous". What are your thoughts? What advice would you offer her?

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Posted on May 20, 2007 at 05:18 AM

She is "cheating" unless she is sharing the information with her live in Partner, rare but possible.If she is maintaining intimate relationships with both it will be driving her crazy not giving away the new skills she has learnt.

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Posted on May 20, 2007 at 02:11 AM

i recently interviewd a 40+ year old woman who asked if I considered her having sex with another woman, particularly a dear friend, as "cheating".. What are your thoughts.... dear blog readers... I thought she was...

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